be free from unhealthy relationships (lesson two) ...a blog ...
going through a breakup … (lesson two) …
“Not looking back” is popular spiritual advice even written about in the bible. One of the most famous stories is in the Old Testament is when Lots wife turned into a pillar of salt when she looked back at Sodam and Gommorah crumbling. Most spiritual leaders / masters / authors will advice you to stay in the present and focus on “now”. How can we forget Eckhart Tolle’s best selling ‘The Power of Now or Ram Dass’ Be Here Now.... don't look back ...
Write a letter of good-bye to your relationship. Write this letter as if your ex could hear the letter being read. Say everything that needs to be said. Let your feelings come as you write. Cry while writing the letter. But don’t send it. It can be a powerful experience to read this letter to a trusted friend, someone who can bear witness to your feelings. You might want to save the letter to look at later on after time has passed, or tear it up as a symbol of ending your connection with them.
It’s time for me to let you and the ‘imagined’ relationship go. I have hung on for such a long time waiting for the fairytale, which hasn’t come. I know you want this fairy tale too, but I don’t think I’m your princess and you are not turning out to be my prince either. I sincerely thought I loved you with all my heart but the years of things not dealt with, the lies, big and silly, the wild accusations, and the volatile explosive verbal vomit as well as the huge gaping holes in our relationship have now forced me to face reality.
I would always have wanted this to be forever but I haven’t felt like an equal partner since the start of the relationship. I have always felt like we were moving towards your dream and living your life, not mine. It was as if everything to do with me was second rate and that you were doing me a favour lifting me out of the mire. However, since knowing you I find myself sinking deeper and deeper into that mire …
Marriage, in its truest sense, is a partnership of equals, with neither exercising dominion over the other, but, rather, with each encouraging and assisting the other in whatever responsibilities and aspirations he or she might have. – Gordon B Hinckley …
- Express your feelings through creativity; write prose, poetry, and lyrics to songs. Paint, sing, dance
- Verbalize your feelings but not to your ex
- Get out some of your feelings with physical exercise
- Throw out any pictures you have of your ex
- Have a release or goodbye to “your ex” ceremony
- What imaginative way can you think of to commemorate the ending of your relationship in a ceremony?
- Write it here, no matter how outlandish you might think it is. There’s a lot of energy in ritual/ceremony.
Heal Yourself with Writing: Course Overview
Lesson 1: How To Stop Clinging
Lesson 2: Going Through A Breakup
Lesson 3: Building A Support System
Lesson 4: How To Not Act Desperate
Lesson 5: Obsessing
Lesson 7: Your Psychological History
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