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building a support system … (lesson three) …
Alexander Graham Bell was believed to have said, “When one door closes, another door opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the ones which open for us.” Try not to focus on what you’ve lost or what you can’t have. Instead try to focus on the good in your life, and what you do have.... when one door closes another door opens ...
What are the feelings that run through you when you have to reach out to someone for support?
How do you cope with your feelings of loneliness?
How do you usually meet new people?
How do you feel about making new friends?
Make your own list of ways you can meet more people.
Feelings When I have to run to people for support I feel weak and like I’ve let myself down. I also don’t feel very safe with people … I have found they get sick of me quite easily and can’t cope with my weaknesses.
Life is not a solo act. It’s a huge collaboration, and we all need to assemble around us the people who care about us and support us in times of strife.
Loneliness I live in loneliness anyway, everyday. I have chronic ill health and I am alone all day and I don’t really have any friends. The only friend I do have is a long way from me and has so many other friends that I’m not as important to her as she is to me. And it feels like my OH gets all his needs met at work and has no interest in how my day went etc etc …
The most terrible poverty is loneliness, and the feeling of being unloved.
New People + New Friends I don’t have a way for meeting new people or new friends. However, I have a group I will be joining where I intend to make some contacts and some friends for support with my chronic illness.
This makes me feel quite anxious because I don’t have the freedom you might imagine being alone all day. I’m kind of a willing prisoner …
that’s the whole point of life, you know, to meet new people …
Ways To Meet New People + New Friends I could go out to cafes and eat out at lunch and maybe join some yoga classes on my own …
HOW TO MEET NEW PEOPLE …
Do three things this week to build your support system. Here’s a sample of some things you can do to meet more people:
- Take a class
- Join an organisation
- Do volunteer work
- Get in touch with up old friends and relatives you haven’t been in touch with
- Go to a meetup.com meeting or start your own
- Throw a party and use it as an excuse to invite new people. Have friends invite friends you’ve never met to the party
- Make a commitment to go out at least two times a week to a place where you can meet people
- Distract yourself – do whatever it takes to not think about your ex or a person you’re trying to let go of even if it feels counterintuitive.
- Call someone in your support system.
Heal Yourself with Writing: Course Overview
Lesson 1: How To Stop Clinging
Lesson 2: Going Through A Breakup
Lesson 3: Building A Support System
Lesson 4: How To Not Act Desperate
Lesson 5: Obsessing
Lesson 7: Your Psychological History
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